Why women are not texting you Back After Giving you Their Number????
*Single guys questions finally answered!*
Let me break it down for you…
If you’ve ever been lucky enough to get the number of a gorgeous girl, but unlucky enough to not have her respond to your text, just know that you’re not the only one it’s happened to. Don’t just jump to writing the girl off as a stuck up b*tch. She probably has a good reason for not texting you back. She just hasn’t decided to share it with you. But your wingwoman has got your back. I’m ready to share with you some reasons why that text convo is remaining one-sided.
It can be difficult to confront flaws and problems head on, whether they are yours or others. Who wants to hear “your breath smells bad” even if it’s helpful? Why would you want someone to tell you “you’re really boring”? Even though it can be seen as constructive criticism, it can be hard to hear- and hard to say. That’s why it’s sometimes better to just be quiet, especially if it’s not benefitting you to speak up. One reason why that cute girl isn’t texting you back is that she didn’t vibe with you. She may not have been interested in you in a relationship type of way, but she also didn’t find a reason to say that up front. So instead, she gave you her digits. And if you don’t have the proper wingwoman guiding you through the tricky dating scene, you could easily blow your last chance with her. Don’t blow up the girl’s phone. Don’t insult her. Don’t take back your compliments. If she ignores you, bow out with dignity and grace. If you continue to hound her, her decision for not texting you back may only become further reinforced.
Do I Know You?
Ask a girl who their favorite celebrity crush is. They might tell you it’s Jared Leto or Matt Damon. But then they’ll explain it’s not just about their looks. Jared is highly creative and clever. Matt Damon went to Harvard and nearly graduated with a full degree before getting pulled away for a movie. It’s not always just about looks. That’s why it’s so important to let a girl feel you out when you strike up a conversation with her. Let her try to figure you out a little bit. If you need some tips on how to make that happen, just hit up your wingwoman. The point is that you don’t want to make her think that you’re still a stranger when you ask for her number. When you first meet a girl, don’t just talk to her for two minutes before pulling out your phone and asking her to put in her digits. Odds are, she’s going to feel a little bit cornered. Yes, she thinks you’re interesting enough to have talked to you for a couple minutes. But she doesn’t know you enough that it’s going to guarantee a text back. Ease up! Don’t rush it. If you are struggling with how to break the ice enough to get a girl to warm up to you, you can always check with your wingwoman to see what could work.
When girls go out to have a good time, they go together. They dance their hearts out and scream to tell each other whenever “our song” comes on. Their main focus isn’t always about getting attention from others. Sometimes, they just need to unwind with a best friend after a long week at work. While girls are expelling their energy dancing, they aren’t spending a lot of time paying attention to those who talk to them. For some girls, they really did just come out to have a girls night. For others, they could be judging a book by its cover and decided not to speak to you. Harsh, but true. Everything is very fast-paced in a club scene. Girls make split-second decisions about whether or not to give a guy the time of day. If you end up hitting it off with a cute girl from the club, and yet she hasn’t texted you back, don’t feel bad. Hangovers are a b*tch to deal with, and trying to figure out who “Aaron S” is in your phone, with no picture or extra information, is another headache in itself. It’s embarrassing to admit that you don’t exactly remember all the people you talked to the night before. Especially when you have trouble matching names and faces in general! So don’t take it personally. A good option for when this happens is to send her a selfie, or show her your Instagram. Don’t be aggressive about it. Just hit her up, and maybe send her a pic with you and a bottle of Gatorade (a welcome savior), or tell he she should follow you on Instagram if she gets the time. And if she still is not texting you back, leave it be. Don’t continuously text her.
Sorry, I’m Seeing Someone
It’s not always first come first serve. You just have to go with your gut sometimes. To find the perfect ice cream flavor, you’ve got to sample others first. This can be difficult to deal with. Especially if you thought you were really vibing with the girl you met, and were psyched to think about continuing to hang out with her and get to know her. But you aren’t going to be everyone’s type. Instead of coming right out and saying “sorry, I’m actually interested in someone else”, girls will end up giving you their number- and the silent treatment. There’s not an easy way to tell if she’s seeing someone else unless you have her on social media. But even then, poring over profiles isn’t exactly a wise use of time. There will be other awesome girls out there. She had her chance. To up your chances with other unattached girls, get with your wingwoman to see what else you could try so you can put an end to this whole “not texting you back” thing.
We’ve Got History
History is huge. Memories last a lifetime, they say. So it’s pretty hard to forget the ones you have with someone who was once very special. Sometimes, life has an interesting sense of humor. People get back together with their exes after a breakup. Just one of those things. Especially if it’s an ex that friends and family weren’t very supportive of, it can be kind of embarrassing to tell people that it’s going down…again. If you’ve never met the girl before, it can be hard to tell that her heart is somewhere else. Lets be honest, even if you have met her before, it can be hard to tell. Rather than disappoint you and let you down by admitting that she’s trying to start something back up again with someone from her past, girls will put their numbers into your phone. Why? Maybe she’s trying to convince herself that new is better, that she should give you a chance. Or maybe she just genuinely doesn’t have it in her to tell you to your face that she’s not entirely available right now. Is it a good idea to get back with an ex? That’s a loaded question. But you can ask your friendly neighborhood wingwoman, and I’ll be happy to break it down for you.
That covers it for the most part. The point is, people- not just girls- don’t always like coming right out and saying we don’t want to do something, or we aren’t entirely feeling something. It’s much easier to just go with the flow and say “yes” to questions and requests, without further analyzing them. It’s just something in our basic human nature that a lot of us need to work on. But the other half of the time, it’s simpler to give out a short stream of numbers instead of admitting “you’re not really my type.” It’s just not a great conversation to have for anyone. But if you really want her texting you back, contact your wingwoman. I’ll be sure to respond!
I work with this girl and finally gathered up the courage to ask for her number she said OK then have it to me. And later text me that she isn’t interested.
Yo my man. At least u had the balls to go up to her and take action. A lot of guys cannot do that! And now you know she doesn’t dig you you can move on to the next girl.
There’s plenty of fish in the sea my brother. You just gotta keep fishing
She works at 7-11. Unused to go there just to say hi and work up the courage to talk to her. I finally learned something in Spanish that was sweet to say.. she laughed and blushed and I asked for her number.. she said how about we talk on social media first.. so she used my phone, and sent herself a message on messenger.. which she says she doesn’t use very much, but since I don’t have any other social media accounts, we used that.. I sent her a message later that night.. it’s been 3 days and nothing back.. no reply.. what should I do? I have since made an Instagram account and Snapchat.. but hesitate to contact her again. I don’t know if I should even go to the 7-11 again.. this girl is absolutely stunning.. her family owns the 7-11.. what do I do now?
I agree 100%. Dude it’s a numbers game, and when it comes to dating it’s worth your time to keep getting out there. Ended up on this page today because I met a girl, got her number, made an introductory text, and haven’t heard anything. She may not be interested. That’s her loss. And that’s your coworker’s loss too. Chin up my friend.
Why cant women be honest insteads of having excuses just like the ones that were detailed in this entire article. Have enough respect for men to be honest and upfront. Things only get worse when lying.
I liked it better when girls gave out fake phone numbers that answered with a funny rejection voicemail. You’d think that there would be fake numbers with funny rejections texts. At least I’d get rejected and get a laugh out of it.
There’s this girl I talk to at work I finally got her number a couple days sHe seem like a cool person but we’ve been having little small talk on it on his side she always be the first person to say hello to me and that’s how I’m doing I am always the person texting her but she never text me back But she really is a cool person though I will really like to get to know more about her But I think I’m not the type a guy she wants But sometime I feel like to annoying her
Yeah, but what about when you are the guy who is at the bar alone, not really looking to talk to anyone or do anything but sip a cold beer after a long night of work and she approaches you? Happened to me last week. Tells you her whole life story, you have a great hour of coversation or so. To the point she doesn’t even notice when the friends she showed up with leave her alone with you to go to the bathroom or mingle with other people.
Then you end the conversation explaining you have to leave because you have to go to work early in the morning. Then she insists that you guys should go to the salad place you talked about a half hour ago. And she offers her number? And you text two days later and call one time maybe 5 or 6 days later…. and ***CRICKETS***. WHAT THE EFF DOES THAT MEAN?
Exactly, I went on a date with a girl, I made her laugh a ton, we go to this mochanopoly place that she suggested to go to after and when iam in the middle of picking out the board game she comes back from the bathroom and her brother needs a lift home becuase his tires brtroke. I say okay no problem and we part our ways. Then I text her that night saying that i had a good time and recalled a joke from that night and she respionds rightr away with me too haha we should do this again sometime! So I givve her two days to miss me and I text her hey whats up? she then rplys with nothing much how about you? and I reply with Hanigning out with a friend, why dont we pick up where we left off andd go to the mochanoipoly place you wanted to go to last time we went out, what time is best for you? and crickets! WHAT DO YOU MEANNNNNNNNN? I LOVE the sillent treeament … NOT
my guy! lol that’s half the battle right there working up the courage to actually ask her.. That was weak on her part to give you the digits and tell you via text she wasn’t interested.. what a waste of a phone contact.. Oh well, her loss.. move onto the next girl. Someone out there for everyone, Stay up brotha!
This happened to me today. I got this girl number at the super market. I sent a text asking the girl how to spell her name for my contacts but no response. Lol In hindsight I could’ve been more “cool” about it but f*ck it. The analytical part of me thinks she just gave her number to avoid confrontation. Although its still early. I firmly believe that if a girl is truly interested she’ll respond to a basic question thru text within a reasonable amount time. Its a bit of a disappointment initially but I dont care. It helps build your confidence to improve your next approach.
Also side note, I think the girl was young like early 20s possibly 19 (im 28). She said she was in college. I say this because I think this younger generation of women are more receptive to the digital approach. Meaning, if I were to ask her out on IG or FB i may fare better than the direct approach. I feel like when you approach a girl directly nowadays and its not at a bar/club they’re more uncomfortable than flattered.
Had a girl give me her number. I text her and she replied 1 time that night and seemed interested then I text her again the next day and nothing. She never text me back! It was a simple text that said something like ‘it was great meeting you last night at the restaurant”. Never heard from her again. I don’t get it. Only thing I could think of is I gave her my full name and she looked it up on Facebook and maybe saw I had kids and it scared her off. Otherwise why would a girl give me her number and repond back that evening seemingly excited about meeting up the next day??
Hi Eric, sadly this does happen often. She could have had a boyfriend, been in a weird relationship, or lost interest later that night for whatever reason, or could be going through personal issues. You could always try calling a few days later, however if someone does not give you the time you deserve than thats probably not the right person for you. Best of luck out there!
The way I see it is that if they didn’t have the courage to be truthful in the first place (doing the right thing) then they won’t have the courage to say no to infidelity in a relationship with you. Sadly most of the women that have the courage are in long term committed relationships or married. This is not to say “they’re all taken” but I find these women as rare. Nowadays your whole life in on social media or the internet in general so the mystery factor is taken out of the equation of traditional dating and this has made dating even harder and increased the “hook up only” culture. Hookups are okay but to me having great chemistry with a woman who can also hold a conversation is way sexier than a model. But back to the point, you’ve got to be with someone that is evenly yoked with you. Don’t take it as a negative thing, see it as a forewarning of what you could have gotten yourself into being a bad situation. If a girl is interested in you she will reciprocate the effort you put towards her period. Do not give what is holy to dogs.
I ran into a girl I knew from high school and we talked and laughed for hours. Keep in mind we both talked about being single. After sometime later I asked for her number , because I was about to leave. She says yeah of course and types in her number and I leave. Hours later I texted her and no response. And forgot to mention she was flirting the whole time that’s why I asked. And its been days now and no reply
women with boyfriend’s who give their number out are sluts. It’s that simple.
This is the very reason why my interest in physical attractive can be prevalent in a lot of women, however not so much when it comes down to the nonphyical attributes. If I can’t even be owed a token of honesty whether I have been a friend for 20 years or even a complete stranger on the street, why would I want a relationship with you because you feel it is easier to do whatever you think is “easier” rather than what is the right thing to do. Giving a guy a number knowing that you will never respond to anything they say is the equivalent to telling me that I am not even worth being recognized as a human being. How has it become more insulting to tell me they are not interested from the get go? I understand that a lot of women have had a lot of experience where the guy has flipped out when that is said, but that’s life. Thinking that it is acceptable to provide a false premise of interest with a phone number and the sound of crickets chirping because some guys that you met started confrontation, is the equivalent of a guy cheating on his girlfriend without her knowing because he’s been cheated on in the past. Sounds like an even tradeoff, right? Well, it’s not and somehow society recognizes one to be ethically and morally wrong, but the other to be acceptable…..
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I work with a girl and I usually talk to her during our shift together. So, I asked her if she’d like to walk with me back to our apartments (college campus) because we so happened to live in the same place. We were making good conversation and once we made it to the building, it ends up she lives right underneath my apartment. So, I asked for her number and she obliged. I texted her that night saying who I was so she could get my name into her phone, but no reply since.